30 Things We Believe That People Might Disagree With Us On
I don't know if it's the sun setting by four in the afternoon, but for the past few weeks I've been suffering from my annual, end-of-the-year case of writer's block. Whenever this happens, I try to get myself out of the rut by substituting quality for quantity. For example, here's a not-very-good poem I wrote titled "I'm Not Myself Today":
I'm Not Myself Today
These hands are some guy's hands
These thoughts are some guy's thoughts
My days are shown on rerun
In a land that time forgot
I'll keep these fingers moving
Through the silence in the air
Past the age of politeness
Beyond the point to care.
Another thing I like to do is make lists - tons of lists - about anything that crosses my mind. Taking a page from Silicon Valley, I've compiled a list of 30 things Jennie and I believe that people might disagree with us on - categorized by the three subjects we cover here at The Origami Life: money, travel and love.
Keep in mind that while Jennie and I really do believe these things, the truth is probably a bit less black-and-white.
10 Things We Believe About Money
Most people don’t make choices, but are forced to accept their circumstances.
Every household should operate like a lean, bootstrapped business.
Maintaining a fuck-off fund is more valuable than anything money can buy
Beyond the basics (food, shelter, physical/mental health), most financial problems we experience in the developed world are just weaknesses.
Investing isn’t about maximizing your return, but about minimizing your mistakes.
Buying a home early in your career may be the right purchase, but is rarely a good investment.
The financial success of others wouldn't hurt if you were secure in yourself - and shouldn’t influence you to make stupid and unnecessary gambles (*cough* bitcoin).
Following the herd and consuming for appearances is a long term recipe for pain and unhappiness.
Frugality and long term thinking could solve most of the world’s problems (eg. some of the US's money problems are actually consumption problems).
Money is not that important or interesting. People also need less of it than they think to lead fulfilling lives.
10 Things We Believe About Travel
- You are a consumer and tourist no matter how you travel.
- Authenticity in travel is probably overrated.
- Finding your authentic self is definitely overrated (‘you’ is not a static concept and ergo, impossible to find).
- If you’re from the developed world, traveling abroad is objectively cheaper than your normal life.
- Never setting foot outside your country/state/town is almost the definition of ignorance (while being able to is the definition of privilege).
- Staying connected to your phone is the best way to disconnect from the moment.
- At some point, the number of places you’ve visited is inversely proportional to the depth of each experience.
- Just because something is local or “part of the culture” doesn’t mean it’s good.
- Places, people and things are as meaningful as our mindset and degree of openness.
- Take your time. Nothing good gets away.
Love & Relationships:
10 Things We Believe About Love
- There’s no such thing as ‘the one’ - only opportunity meeting circumstance.
- Arguments are the healthiest thing for a relationship.
- You can only compromise on details but not direction (if you want to go east and she wants to go west, compromise means you never go anywhere).
- There should be no restrictions on what can or can’t be brought up in a marriage.
- Feelings matter - but only after everything has been laid out on the table. In marriage, personal truths that aren’t expressed have no merit.
- A good relationship means two people being themselves completely for long periods of time and not hating each other for it.
- Sometimes the best thing you can do for your partner is nothing.
- Time apart from each other is both healthy and necessary.
- The secret to marital bliss is to consistently outperform low expectations.
- Most relationships don’t last forever; forcing it or pretending will only make things worse.
So what do you think about these statements?
Feel free to disagree!
Also, what are some of things you believe that most people would disagree with you on?