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How Do You Get To Your Big Decision?

Jennie here.

On most days, I feel like I’m working towards a bigger dream - of becoming a world traveler and embarking on a career that will (hopefully) create value for others. On other days, I feel like I’m running in place and nothing I do really matters.  

Intentional Living and Goals

Like today. Actually - if I’m being 100% honest - I’ve been feeling this way for the better part of the last few months.


Lately, I’ve realized it’s because making the big decision was the easy part. Who doesn’t want to travel the world? To make better choices with their money? To have a better relationship with their significant other or spouse?

Everyone wants that. Wanting things is easy.

But living the day-to-day is hard. The toughest things in life are the small, tedious commitments we have to make to ourselves again and again. Every single day.

See that mountain over there? I’d like to climb it. But no matter how many steps I take, the peak doesn’t get any closer. The hard part isn’t my desire to reach the summit, but to borrow the words of Balzac, having the forbearance to face the dull task of putting one foot after another.

I can’t run a marathon next year without committing to running every other day. For Ivan, the difficult part is not the decision to write a novel, but the commitment to putting 1,000 words onto the page every. single. day. Good or bad. Rain or shine.

Especially on the days we feel like nothing we do matters.

Ultimately, the sum of all the small, finite choices are what will make the big choices and dreams a reality.

So how do you get to your big decision?

One dull step at a time.

One Girl's Journey To Financial Independence

Jennie here. 

As a first generation Vietnamese-American growing up in Albuquerque, New Mexico, I didn’t have a lot of money growing up. Both my parents had to work full-time minimum wage jobs just to support me and my three siblings. Then in the mid-90’s, my dad got laid off from his factory job and my family fell on hard times. We even had to go on welfare just to make ends meet. 

Based on these experiences, I realized from a pretty young age that I was going to have to fend for myself. And if I didn’t figure something out fast, I’d be stuck in the same cycle of poverty and financial dependence for the rest of my life. So at 14 years of age, I applied for a special work permit and got my first job as an ice cream scooper for Cold Stone Creamery.

I remember the company policy at the time required all Coldstone employees to sing for their tips. Ah, isn’t childhood trauma fun?  


I can assure you that they're dying on the inside.


Looking back on my humble beginnings, there were three pivotal moments in my life that set me on my journey to financial independence: 

1. Paying My Way Through State College (With Zero Debt)

1. Paying My Way Through State College (With Zero Debt)

1. Paying My Way Through State College (With Zero Debt)

Before graduating in 2011, nobody in my family had ever gone to college. And that could have easily been my path. When I was 14, my parents sat me down and told me that they couldn’t afford my education and that I would have to figure something out for myself. 

So for the next four years, I worked my ass off through multiple part-time jobs while attending high school. Unfortunately, by the end of those four years, I still couldn’t afford the $20,000 out of state tuition fees, even though I had good enough marks to get into more ‘prestigious’ schools. 

I had only two real options: go to the state school in New Mexico, or take on student loans to go to a ‘better’ school. If growing up poor had taught me one thing, it was to avoid debt at any cost.

So that was how I came to attend the University of New Mexico. 

Looking back, this turned out to be one of the best decisions I ever made for the following reasons:

  1. I received several state scholarships and financial aid for simply being a resident of New Mexico (and for good grades).
  2. I could commute from home and save on fixed costs
  3. I came out of school not only with zero debt, but with a surplus of cash

I mean, when you really broke it down, how much should students really be paying for a certain ‘brand’ of education? 


 Outside of maybe Harvard or Stanford, is any school really three times better than your average state school to justify the additional cost? And is any of that worth the financial servitude? 

2. Self Funding my Study Abroad Experiences in Japan (twice!)

2. Self Funding my Study Abroad Experiences in Japan (twice!)

2. Self Funding my Study Abroad Experiences in Japan (twice!)

Studying abroad in Japan had been a lifelong dream of mine since high school, and when I have a dream, I’m damn well going to fight to turn that into a reality. 

I ended up studying abroad in Japan twice.  

The first time I was 16 (and extremely broke). So I started cold calling local businesses and doing my own research on available scholarships. Within six months, I had scraped together enough money and applied for the Youth For Understanding summer program. I didn’t even tell my parents that I got accepted until after I booked my flight out of the country. Where I grew up, people just didn’t see the value in travel the way I did. So I just didn’t bother to ask for permission. 

My second time to Japan was to Kyoto in 2008 on a different scholarship that I had clawed my way into. And that’s where I met Ivan (my husband).

3. Moving to Boston with no money, family, or connections and hustling my way to my first salaried position

3. Moving to Boston with no money, family, or connections and hustling my way to my first salaried position

3. Moving to Boston with no money, family, or connections and hustling my way to my first salaried position

After college, one of the toughest challenges I faced was finding my first full time job. It was made more challenging by the fact that I had moved across the country to Boston, a city where I had no family, few friends, and no professional network. I even had to get a $2,500 loan from Ivan just to stay afloat, while I worked part-time jobs for temp agencies (an underused resource) and Club Monaco (ah, retail). 

In the meantime, I talked to everybody. Customers, co-workers, friends of friends three times removed. I cold-emailed people in industries I wanted to work in and invited them out for coffee. 

Then one day, I was on a flight back from Toronto visiting Ivan and was sitting next to a woman who turned out to be an account executive at a well-known market research firm. We chatted and kept in touch. Next thing I knew, I ended up interviewing for two positions and got offered my first salaried job as a cyber-security researcher! 

So What Have I Learned?

You can only connect the dots looking backwards.
— Steve Jobs

Today, I’m living and working in Los Angeles directly because of that first position in Boston, having followed my mentor to a new cybersecurity start-up based in the West Coast. 


Ivan and I are debt-free and are saving at least 45% of our income towards a bigger dream of a sustainable and nomadic life abroad. One of the biggest things I’ve learned so far in this journey is to always bet on yourself and to never stop chasing a bigger dream.

Because that’s what freedom’s all about.